Flip The Switch

Truth Be Told – Matthew West

When I go to a room that has no light and I need to see, I turn on the light, or as some say, “flip the switch!” There is a lot of darkness in hearts today. There is brokenness, a lot of broken people. How do people come out of this though? As people, we deal with each other, but many of us hurt such that we don’t want to to be real with each other. It is SO hard! We have dealt with so many restrictions that involve being with people since the Covid-19 pandemic began. The news tells us not to go to church, not to have family over for the holiday’s, and no major events like sports games and concerts.

Seeing Mental Health

Depression and anxiety have increased significantly. Suicide rates are at an incredible high within the last year. Recently, we had a day dedicated to mental health. I see that people are starting to turn a corner and realize that mental health is an issue we need to be concerned about. But still, we have a ways to go to make it where people are willing to GET help and are willing to GIVE help.

For many years, people were unwilling to discuss and recognize mental health and the struggles that people have with it. So many had shame if they had any mental health disorder, even the slightest leaning towards one. Some never wanted to admit to anyone that they were hurting internally. They didn’t want anyone to know about their anxiety and fear either. Many were afraid to accept help, get on medication or simply talk about their hurts. Believers must flip the switch on our thinking around mental health. People are broken and imperfect and each of us has a unique way that we carry our brokenness… sometimes it’s not just emotional and needs professional help. And that’s ok!

Condemning The Struggle

Some “religious people” years ago would tell you that you aren’t trusting in God if you had these experiences or even talked about them. Often times people would overuse the expressions regarding replacing these thoughts with the “joy of the Lord”, or “Be[ing] anxious for nothing.” This isn’t to say that we shouldn’t honor what God’s Word says but the problem lies in whether or not the Body of Christ, the Church, specifically reaches people and lets them know that we care. We have to be obedient then people will follow. We don’t have to always give a solution, but simply care and listen. If we can do anything else to serve also, that can mean a lot to a person as well. Church should be the one place where people can look troubled and someone will notice and come try to help. All too often, it does not work this way. We must flip the switch on how we listen to and support others.

Choose To See And Listen

I have heard the line “If you just…” before. It is one of my least favorite expressions. You can ask my husband! I’m guilty of it too though sometimes.

It seems easy to tell someone what to do, to give a solution and move on. It is harder to be a sounding board, to just listen to someone expressing and pouring out their heart to you. I believe that this will open opportunities however to impact other people and “plant a seed” to see growth and change in a person’s life. John 13:35 says ” By this everyone will know that you are my disciples , if you love one another.”

The church that my husband and I are members of now has demonstrated this, the best of any church we have ever gone to. It is not perfect. No church ever is because people are in it and people aren’t perfect. But we know that there is love, grace and truth there!

Maybe It Is Our View

We often limit the ministry of the church because of our own perceptions or experiences or even those of others. We have to look a certain way. After all, I’m not going to let anyone know that I am a broken human being and need help! We need Jesus and we need the church to act like Jesus and care about people. Condemnation tears people apart in silence every day because someone can’t share a heavy heart or find needed support and love they so desperately crave. God created us to live in community with all of our flaws and failures. Christ accepted people where they were and encouraged them to become better, but didn’t crush their spirit for where they were. Not to say that God doesn’t have expectations of us, but it’s Christ’s love that compelled people to follow Him. We need to flip the switch on how we think about and support others in our community and especially in our spiritual community.

A Perfect View

I recently watched with my husband, the first season of The Chosen. We saw how Jesus interacted with people and the freedom and the grace and love they saw from Him. I saw how this truly changed lives. It will continue to change lives when we live by the example Jesus demonstrated. He said in fact, to love the Lord your God and love your neighbor as yourself. This is the first and greatest commandment, love the Lord Your God. (Matthew 22:34-40), then love your neighbor(second commandment). I see so often, this not happening in many places and much of history as well as many churches are full of fear.

Admit It!

It so often feels strange when we admit that we need help especially if we vocalize it to someone else. We should be transparent with each other. When we have a problem, it’s not strange, it’s honest to acknowledge it. If that’s uncomfortable at first, we have the option to be honest with a counselor or by just talking to a close friend or relative. It is better to get help and work it out to prevent things from getting worse. My husband and I were going through some difficult circumstances in our life and we decided that it would be good to talk to a counselor and get her input, so that things could get better. It was not because things were just so horrible and falling apart; we just wanted to be honest and make things better. Someone we knew that I told, was real concerned, as if this was a last resort situation. It really wasn’t. We just chose to flip the switch around how we thought about our well being by being vulnerable and honest about what we were going through together.

Unfortunately years ago, society in general looked upon counseling or other therapy as a last resort . If you finally made it in to get help, It meant that things had just gotten SO bad that you just HAD to do that. It is not that way at all though. Admitting that we have a need and that we could use help is the first step. Then getting that help can truly be so good for us! I’m not saying that this is always necessary and it certainly for many often lately, costly. What can we do though? We can be available to God and to people to share and listen and serve!

I Wish My Life Was Perfect

I watched the interview last week between Meghan Markle, Prince Harry and Oprah Winfrey. Royalty, actors, actresses and popular people seem to look always happy when they are out in front of people. But are they really that way inside? In the interview, Oprah talked to Meghan about going out and how she would dress up and put on a pretty face, but she said that she was depressed and suicidal. The Royal family, celebrities and even our pastor or friends from church can look like they have it “all together.” We try to make ourselves look so good to the outside. When we see people looking great out in the public eye or on social media or magazines; we begin to believe that “everybody’s life is perfect except MINE”.

Make It Look Good!

This happens in ministry also! Many pastors and missionary families say before church when everyone is trying to get ready” We can’t look like that -we are the pastor’s family!” or stop” we have to look good to other people”. “Make it look like everything is fine” when it is not! The last few years, many in ministry also have committed suicide. This is so sad! Instead of friends and the church coming to be available, people talk behind closed doors about how messed up someone really must have been to do that, when NO ONE or so few ever took the time to come along side of that person and let them be real with them! I believe that a lot of depression, anxiety and suicide is preventable if this happens!

Check out another related article I wrote back in May and I hope it encourages you: It’s not about Me

Two Lies!

The two lies that Matthew West sings about in “Truth Be Told” are:

  1. You’re supposed to have it all together
  2. Everybody’s life is perfect except yours

Let the World See!

I used Flip The Switch as the title of this post because I believe that we ARE able to change from looking good on the outside and showing the world that we care about other people who are going through tough circumstances too. We can change from being depressed to being willing to share our heart and be available to listen. Our perspective needs to change TODAY!

Often dealing with our struggles honestly and admitting that we’re broken human beings is the solution to freeing our lives to be better. Don’t be fake; be honest and let God’s community be a part of your healing.

Take a few minutes to genuinely connect with another person today and see if you can make it into a lifestyle. Flip the Switch on your interactions today!

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  1. Another thoughtful read.

    Regarding “Condemning The Struggle” … As a believer in Christ’s unmistakable miracles, I sometimes wonder how many potential Christians have felt repelled from the faith altogether due to the vocal angry-God-condemnation brand of the religion? And could collective human need for retributive justice — regardless of Christ (and great spiritual leaders) having emphasized love/compassion and non-violence — be intrinsically linked to the same terribly flawed aspect of humankind that enables the most horrible acts of violent cruelty to readily occur on this planet (perhaps not all of which we learn about)?

    I feel that too many followers have created God’s nature in their own angry, vengeful image. I personally picture Jesus as being one who’d enjoy a belly-shaking laugh over a good, albeit clean, joke with his disciples, rather than always being the stoically serious type of savior. Imagine a creator who has a great sense of humor rather than a readily infuriated streak!

    Meanwhile, it seems, when a public person openly fantasizes about world peace, a guaranteed minimum income and/or a clean, pristinely green global environment, many theological fundamentalists immediately react with the presumption that he/she must therefore be Godless and, by extension, evil and/or (far worse) a socialist. Yet, Christ’s teachings epitomize the primary component of socialism — do not hoard morbidly superfluous wealth when so very many people have little or nothing. That’s just how upside-down (I’m sad to say) so much of institutional Christianity has become.

    (I hope my words did not overly offend, as they really are not meant to.)

  2. Thank you for following my blog – it’s always gratifying to receive an acknowledgement of one’s work. And I have responded, but I would, if I may draw attention to my ‘About Me’ page. I am a convinced humanist who actually believes that religiosity is at best mistaken, and at worst, evil. Too many wars, too many persecutions, too many deaths, lie at the door of someone’s particular god.

    1. That is why I believe in a true relationship with THE God who created the world. Who came to give His life, die and rise again. It isn’t about religion and following a list of rules that one religion or another states. I do believe that religion has caused problems among people. I have no desire to cause problems with people. I only want to live a life displaying who God is, what He means to me and that others can have a relationship with Him also. He brings me peace and hope. I want that for other people too.

  3. LOVE this blog, especially the frankness, “I’m guilty of it, too, though sometimes.” We all are. I always wonder why it’s so much easier to clean out someone else’s basement than my own? 😉

  4. You’ve made several good points in this post. To comment on a few:
    – Thankfully society’s made progress in being able to talk openly about issues rather than seeing a therapist or counselor as a detriment. I think 12 Step programs have tremendously helped alleviate the shame in openly sharing.
    – I see a correlation in reduced church attendance with increased depression, suicide and mental health issues. Toddlers for Heaven’s sakes are on anti-depressants or anti-anxiety meds, even before ccp/covid..
    – Not being with supportive people during a crisis is the worst thing for our health — mentally and physically. Unfortunately, the powers at be didn’t seem to consider that when restricting our lives and livelyhoods.
    – It’s a delicate balance between being truthful and acting “As if.” How many times have you heard that you manifest your thoughts? If you remain focused on being depressed, you will be depressed. But, if you focus on gratitude, spirits lift. Perhaps it helps to acknowledge and feel the feelings to process them…and then let go, turning it over to God…
    Thank you for the follow. Warm wishes to you —

  5. Thank you so much for visiting JanBeek and leaving your “calling card” so I could find your beautiful blog. This particular post really spoke to my heart – and I see many of my blogging friends have visited and commented here – so they are drinking from your fount of wisdom, too. I’ll be back! Your comment: ” Condemnation tears people apart in silence every day because someone can’t share a heavy heart or find needed support and love they so desperately crave. ” particularly spoke to me because I know some of those “silent folk” who carry a heavy burden. My prayers lift those I know up to God every day. I know He hears, and I am heartened to see your response “You will be in my prayers.” Like me, I bet you follow through on that! It’s not just platitudes! God bless you! <3

    1. Thank you so much for your kind, supportive comment! It means a lot that my writing is reaching people! God bless you as you write also! Have a wonderful day and please keep in touch!

  6. Thanks a lot for for sharing a post with so much empathy in it to resolve personal problems of people who are feeling neglected or abandoned.God bless.Take care.🌹🙏

  7. Great thoughts! We need to listen more ourselves to the cries for help from others. And therapy from trained Christian counselors is an extraordinary blessing when you can find it. I imagine there are more opportunities now for counseling via Zoom that weren’t available before COVID! Blessings to you…and thanks for following my blog!

  8. Being a pastor, we provide counseling and help to others. We try to watch for the signs in others and be proactive, but people need to seek out help.

    You’re right where people want others to think that they “have it all together,” and don’t seek help. I’m not a psychologist or psychiatrist, but I can be a first line assist to those who just need to talk. I have referred people to faith-based psychologists where necessary or where a problem is beyond my capabilities, but in many cases, just talking through the issues with someone can work just fine.

    Also, pastors/clergy are required to keep counseling confidential, just as there’s a doctor/patient privilege, there’s one when talking with your pastor when seeking help. The only way that this privilege is broken is when I suspect child or elder abuse, or if you are a danger to yourself or others, then I’m legally obligated to break the privilege and report it. That’s it – so if you need help, start with your pastor.

    1. You are right! It’s good that you help your members/attenders! It is very important too keep things confidential except for abuse situations! God bless you in your ministry!

  9. What a beautiful post full of love and truth! I can relate to every word you wrote. I can feel your heart and spirit; and your authenticity. I’m not for sure if you know Dr. Caroline Leaf, but she helped me with my brain healing after my TBI (motorcycle accident years ago). I just finished the first season of “The Chosen” as well. I can start crying crocodile tears just thinking of the love of Jesus and the cross. Thank you for finding me as I have found you. God bless you and your witness! I understand loneliness as well. And I’m so glad we have such a loving and grace giving Heavenly Papa. ❤️💚💛

  10. Thank you for liking my stuff because today I’m struggling I do a podcast called struggling bless but not alone and talk about my struggles and how God is victorious but thank you today because I’ve been crying and sleeping for days because as much as I’m trying and I know God is there it’s hard to be so alone so thank you for being real and liking my post so I can read more about the truth you say because you are so correct again thank you or from above thank you God for bringing you my way have a blessed and wonderful night

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